Tantra
Los Angeles Massage
Explore with Goddess Xlandia a tantric-sensual journey into the joys of limitless bliss; release physical and emotional blocks….I will be your High Priestess and guide through your experience of surrender of all earthly boundaries. I have traveled extensively…….from Bora Bora to Africa…..Europe and Asia…..Israel and Greece…. studied with the sensual Grecian Goddess's of Santorini and have practiced the Art of Sacred Tantra for many years………through my studies I have learned healing and spirituality through sensual-love and awakening. I offer my special and safe Tantric Sanctuary for our healing mind/body/spiritual sessions. I will guide you in your awakening of your inner secrets of love and passion through breath, touch, mind clearing and connectivity to the sacred, sensual soul.
Tantra Massage is designed to help men, woman and couples seeking higher knowledge of energy transmutation for the purpose of spiritual and emotional advancement, release stress and to enhance and prolong passion and pleasure
Tantra * Kama Sutra * Tantric Sex
For many of us wounded sexually as children, intimacy and sexuality are
a struggle between trying to consistently feel our sexual feelings or
give up caring about relationships. Incest and centuries of repressing
the feminine and truncating the masculine (in us all) make intimacy
difficult for many, often hard work, and sometimes fraught with
triggers. I feel healing such pervasive effects requires we come to live
in our deeper feminine, the true nature that lies beneath the wounds. At
our core we must be whole and I want us to find our way back to that
wholeness and original innocence.
I love doing therapy with the heroic people who've not only survived
incest and childhood horrors, but manage to have a life while freeing
themselves of being ruled by the past. My guides have joined me in
committing to find faster, kinder ways for survivors to heal than
reliving memories and being victim to the pain again and again. I
studied soul retrieval as done in shamanic traditions and found Spirit
and I developing many ways to retrieve and nurture fragmented parts of
the soul. In bringing all of the person into current time, the memories
recede into another time and the person's Essence separates from their
experience.
Betrayal by one’s closest loved ones shatters the psyche, which cannot
hold both a child’s need to love and trust its caretakers, and their
violent intrusion of boundaries, without splitting apart. Many of us
with multiple abusers split into myriad pieces, all containing some part
of the radiance of our self, each playing some role in the complex
adaptive scheme we needed to survive. Some handle anger, some fear, some
get invisible, some present a good face to the world.
I find survivors amazingly inventive of ways to cope with the
unacceptable and live with the unforgivable. The more vicious the abuse,
the more parts the child may develop to handle it. The more they loved
the abuser, the more separate the splinters must be to hold both love
and hate. There are many levels of dissociation before that called
multiple, which is only the end of a very long continuum.
Once splits are brought back, the task is to love them, learn about them
and nurture them so they can trust life enough to come live in the
present. The present is the safest place to be, especially if you do
spiritual practices to be with Presence.
You’ll often hear someone saying they’ve been "triggered" which I feel
means they’ve contacted a place inside "caught in the past". A younger
self is still at the moment of the abuse because they could not process
it, which is how one closes the door on the past. I’ve learned to use
the trigger as a signal a younger self needs my attention and has
something old to release.
Because sexual invasions are so incomprehensible and splinter the psyche
so deeply, one’s sexuality becomes scattered and disorganized and one
develops strange coping mechanisms not so adaptive in adult love. This
shows up in various ways: promiscuity or being shut down sexually, being
able to flirt and seduce but not sustain intimacy, objectifying self and
other in an attempt to get sex over with and return to safer ground.
Others lose themselves in addictions, obsessively having sex or
compulsively running fantasies to avoid feeling. Therapy can help clear
some of these patterns, energetic healing can release them from the
cells, but one must also learn new,
effective behaviors and have support in replacing the old ways of
avoiding pain with adult ways of making love.
Experiencing years of sharing Tantra in circles of loving people taught
me how important it is to have an on-going support system for exploring
your sexuality and learning healthy skills. I offer Tantra in on-going
women’s groups because I know it takes continual use of spiritual
practices to release the old coping mechanisms and enter into a sacred
and positive relationship with one’s sexuality.
In ancient times, upon adolescence, we would be taken to temples of love
and be initiated in the arts of love-making and honoring spirit in each
other. At each new stage of relationship, we would return and be guided
by high priestesses and dakinis (trained sexual healers) in developing
knowledge of love that allowed us to be fulfilled in our relationships
and kind to our loved ones. If sexual violence were ever to happen
(unlikely in a society where sexual needs are met), the child or adult
would be taken into the loving arms of those who serve the Goddess to be
restored to love and trust.
Its time to re-create those temples and be sexual healers for each
other. We’ve been forced to hide our sexuality, not talk about it, make
love only in private, and often with closed eyes when we ought to
celebrate our sexuality and exalt it as the bridge from soul to soul it
is meant to be.
I recently guided a three day retreat with a highly dissociated
survivor, a successful corporate trainer, who’s found relationship
illusive and sexuality difficult. My task was to remain a clear vessel
through which Spirit could direct the re-coalescing of her parts, over
30 splintered sub-personalities we’ve come to know over a decade of
healing memories and reclaiming her splits. As she integrates her soul
energy back into the body, and lives from her wholeness, she finds life
rearranging itself to be more what she wants, and gains the courage and
wisdom to study relationships and learn new skills.
Reclaiming sexuality this damaged involves removing all that blocks you
from you. I exchange with a healer who teaches me about realigning one’s
energy fields with those of one’s soul, one’s Highest Intention, one’s
Essence, the Heart of Source. One’s own light is the organizing force
that will bring order again into the shattered places.
I do this practice often for I must reclaim my wholeness regularly or I
slip into feeling shattered by life and disorganized. I find as I call
in these higher levels of alignment, I become the purity before the
wounds. In this woman’s retreat I got to witness recovered splits and
fragments become, once again, the Divine Child. What an honor and a
validation of our right to believe in and approach complete restoration.
Blessed Be.